21 Ways to Help Yourself Get Unstuck Today

November 30, 2020 - 321 views

By: Ilene Berns-Zare, PsyD, PCC i

This simple habit can help you build focus and get unstuck.

In these uncertain times, a lot of us are feeling stuck. There’s a simple habit that can help you feel less stuck, taking a simple mindfulness pause. Without pausing to embrace the present moment—the one we are experiencing right now—we are not as self-aware, interpersonally-aware, or effective as we can be. 

When we walk around without waking up to savor the moments of our lives, it’s as if we’ve switched off our internal cellular phone. There are lots of data coming in, but we don’t hear the messages. To get access to the information, we need to pause, notice the phone is off, and activate it. Without pausing to pay attention, we can be deaf and blind to life’s messages. We don’t notice what’s most meaningful—we don’t notice our own internal reality or the realities of the people in our lives and the world in which we live.

Research reveals that mindfulness and related skills that invite us to pause, take notice or savor the moment are learnable and support well-being in the mind, the brain, and the body (Goleman & Davidson, 2017; Siegel, 2011; Smith. J.L. & Hollinger-Smith, L., 2015). Even short daily mindful pauses can help us create positive shifts in our lives.

Taking a mindfulness pause is a habit that involves simply focusing your attention. Whether you pause just for a moment or for a few moments, that pause can help you redirect yourself to get out of auto-pilot. You can become aware of your internal experience without being blown away as frequently by the winds of life—and this can help you get unstuck from whatever you might be worrying about.

Mindfulness is really about paying attention right here, right now—so simple that all we need to do is pause and notice. Mindful leadership expert, Maria Gonzalez (2012) writes that mindfulness principles can be woven into every aspect of our personal and professional lives, helping us build focus and awareness, effectiveness, and decision making.

Taking a mindfulness pause is a simple step-by-step, moment-by-moment habit anyone can do. Rather than being an all-or-nothing experience, when we forget to pause and pay attention (which is an inevitable human behavior) it’s no big deal—we just remind ourselves to come back to noticing whatever the focus might be.

The ability to pay attention is a human capacity; all of us can do it (Kabat-Zinn, 2012). Using a mindfulness pause to get unstuck is not just for the old or the young, or the leader or the worker, or the believers or the non-believers: Noticing the present moment is a learnable skill for anyone who is willing to practice it. Like learning to sit, walk, or throw a baseball, we can practice and build our muscles of attention.

21 Simple Ways to Take a Mindfulness Pause Right Now

Even if you have never tried this kind of awareness before, there are many simple ways to take a quick mindfulness pause. To begin to develop this habit, just pause briefly and focus your attention on where you are right now. Here are 21 ideas to help you practice this powerful way to transform your life.

  1. Pause between bites of food and savor the taste.
  2. Really pay attention to your experience as you wash your face or brush your teeth.
  3. Turn off your personal electronic devices for an hour.
  4. Stretch and notice the sensations in your body.
  5. Listen carefully with no agenda to the person speaking to you.
  6. For just a few breaths, observe that you are breathing—the feeling of the in-breath and out-breath.
  7. Focus your attention on what you’re doing right here, right now.
  8. Look around and really notice your surroundings.
  9. Offer someone a few positive words from your heart.
  10. Read an inspiring poem.
  11. Sing a song in the shower—just for fun, no judgment.
  12. Observe the sunrise or sunset.
  13. Notice a bird singing.
  14. Stop for a moment and just sit or stand quietly.
  15. Appreciate someone in your life.
  16. Write a personal note of gratitude.
  17. Play with a child or a pet.
  18. Meditate.
  19. Notice the sounds in your environment without judgment.
  20. Clasp your hands together and notice the sensations.
  21. Listen to music.

This post is for educational purposes and should not substitute forpsychotherapywith a qualified professional.

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Source: Psychology Today


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